The
Four Emotions that can Lead to Life Change by Jim Rohn
Emotions are the most powerful forces inside us. Under the power
of emotions, human beings can perform the most heroic (as well as
barbaric) acts. To a great degree, civilization itself can be defined
as the intelligent channeling of human emotion. Emotions are fuel
and the mind is the pilot, which together propel the ship of civilized
progress.
Which
emotions cause people to act? There are four basic ones; each, or
a combination of several, can trigger the most incredible activity.
The day that you allow these emotions to fuel your desire is the
day you'll turn your life around.
1)
DISGUST
One
does not usually equate the word "disgust" with positive
action. And yet properly channeled, disgust can change a person's
life. The person who feels disgusted has reached a point of no return.
He or she is ready to throw down the gauntlet at life and say, "I've
had it!" That's what I said after many humiliating experiences
at age 25, I said. "I don't want to live like this anymore.I've
had it with being broke. I've had it with being embarrassed, and
I've had it with lying."
Yes,
productive feelings of disgust come when a person says, "Enough
is enough."
The
"guy" has finally had it with mediocrity. He's had it
with those awful sick feelings of fear, pain and humiliation. He
then decides he is not going to live like this anymore." Look
out! This could be the day that turns a life around. Call it what
you will, the "I've had it" day, the "never again"
day, the "enough's enough" day. Whatever you call it,
it's powerful! There is nothing so life-changing as gut-wrenching
disgust!
2)
DECISION
Most
of us need to be pushed to the wall to make decisions. And once
we reach this point, we have to deal with the conflicting emotions
that come with making them. We have reached a fork in the road.
Now this fork can be a two-prong, three-prong, or even a four-prong
fork. No wonder that decision-making can create knots in stomachs,
keep us awake in the middle of the night, or make us break out in
a cold sweat.
Making
life-changing decisions can be likened to internal civil war. Conflicting
armies of emotions, each with its own arsenal of reasons, battle
each other for supremacy of our minds. And our resulting decisions,
whether bold or timid, well thought out or impulsive, can either
set the course of action or blind it. I don't have much advice to
give you about decision-making except this:
Whatever
you do, don't camp at the fork in the road. Decide. It's far better
to make a wrong decision than to not make one at all. Each of us
must confront our emotional turmoil and sort out our feelings.
3)
DESIRE
How
does one gain desire? I don't think I can answer this directly because
there are many ways. But I do know two things about desire:
a. It comes from the inside not the outside.
b. It can be triggered by outside forces.
Almost
anything can trigger desire. It's a matter of timing as much as
preparation. It might be a song that tugs at the heart. It might
be a memorable sermon. It might be a movie, a conversation with
a friend, a confrontation with the enemy, or a bitter experience.
Even a book or an article such as this one can trigger the inner
mechanism that will make some people say, "I want it now!"
Therefore,
while searching for your "hot button" of pure, raw desire,
welcome into your life each positive experience. Don't erect a wall
to protect you from experiencing life. The same wall that keeps
out your disappointment also keeps out the sunlight of enriching
experiences. So let life touch you. The next touch could be the
one that turns your life around.
4)
RESOLVE
Resolve
says, "I will." These two words are among the most potent
in the English language. I WILL. Benjamin Disraeli, the great British
statesman, once said, "Nothing can resist a human will that
will stake even its existence on the extent of its purpose."
In other words, when someone resolves to "do or die,"
nothing can stop him.
The
mountain climber says, "I will climb the mountain. They've
told me it's too high, it's too far, it's too steep, it's too rocky,
it's too difficult. But it's my mountain. I will climb it. You'll
soon see me waving from the top or you'll never see me, because
unless I reach the peak, I'm not coming back." Who can argue
with such resolve?
When
confronted with such iron-will determination, I can see Time, Fate
and Circumstance calling a hasty conference and deciding, "We
might as well let him have his dream. He's said he's going to get
there or die trying."
The
best definition for "resolve" I've ever heard came from
a schoolgirl in Foster City, California. As is my custom, I was
lecturing about success to a group of bright kids at a junior high
school. I asked, "Who can tell me what "resolve"
means?" Several hands went up, and I did get some pretty good
definitions. But the last was the best. A shy girl from the back
of the room got up and said with quiet intensity, "I think
resolve means promising yourself you will never give up." That's
it! That's the best definition I've
ever heard: PROMISE YOURSELF YOU'LL NEVER GIVE UP.
Think
about it! How long should a baby try to learn how to walk? How long
would you give the average baby before you say, "That's it,
you've had your chance"? You say that's crazy? Of course it
is. Any mother would say, "My baby is going to keep trying
until he learns how to walk!" No wonder everyone walks.
There
is a vital lesson in this. Ask yourself, "How long am I going
to work to make my dreams come true?" I suggest you answer,
"As long as it takes." That's what these four emotions
are all about.
"Walk away from the 97% crowd. Don't use their excuses. Take
charge of your own life." Jim Rohn
See
http://www.jimrohn.com
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